A Psychiatrist’s Take on Suicidal Thoughts and Suicide Prevention

Tips from a psychiatrist on suicide. Wondering how to help someone who is suicidal? Need help for suicidal thoughts? Suicide prevention hotline 800-273-8255

 

As a psychiatrist, part of my job is to talk to people about suicide. In my profession, hearing about suicidal thoughts is not uncommon. Read this post if you need help for suicidal thoughts or if you want to learn how to help someone who is suicidal. Suicide prevention hotline: 800-273-8255

 

Suicidal thoughts are a symptom like all other symptoms that I consider in my assessments. Often people are fearful that if they admit to feeling this way I will instantly hospitalize them against their will. (Not true — there are only certain situations when I have to which I will explain later).

Suicidal Thoughts:Tips from a psychiatrist on suicide. Wondering how to help someone who is suicidal? Need help for suicidal thoughts? Suicide prevention hotline 800-273-8255

Suicidal thoughts need to be talked about and, usually, don’t mean a person wants to die. They want to feel better but don’t know how, and often don’t believe they can. Suicidal thoughts can be shorthand for “I feel ashamed, alone, helpless, depressed, guilty, angry, hopeless, and fearful.” Suicidal thoughts can remind people they are in ultimate control of their lives during times they feel out of control and scared.

 

Suicidal thoughts can be a coping mechanism meant to soothe and reassure. Often people aren’t handed a basket full of healthy coping mechanisms as children. Parents model coping and they themselves may have never learned emotional self-care. Coping mechanisms taught to some children may be tools like:

  • denial,
  • repression,
  • externalization,
  • anger,
  • alcohol,
  • drugs,
  • violence.

There are other reasons besides coping mechanisms that people think about or attempt suicide. Someone could be under the influence of a substance and impulsively reacts when their thinking is altered. Or maybe someone else is manic, psychotic, or severely depressed.

Choosing life:

Tips from a psychiatrist on suicide. Wondering how to help someone who is suicidal? Need help for suicidal thoughts? Suicide prevention hotline 800-273-8255

Some people develop suicidal thoughts early in life and revisit these thoughts when feeling overwhelmed, alone, out of control, or when depression resurfaces. These thoughts can be like a tattered, ugly, worn, old sweater that you put on. Initially, it provides comfort but then you realize it is scratchy, too hot, and stifling. Ultimately, it needs to be thrown away in order to be free and move forward with choosing life.

Suicide Prevention:

To prevent suicide, we must be willing and able to talk about it. Talking and asking about suicide doesn’t increase the chance that people will kill themselves. People that are suicidal often feel alone and stuck and can benefit from someone asking them how they are.

 

How to help someone who is suicidal:Tips from a psychiatrist on suicide. Wondering how to help someone who is suicidal? Need help for suicidal thoughts? Suicide prevention hotline 800-273-8255

If you sense someone is having a hard time ASK THEM HOW THEY ARE! Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide. Show that you care with your attention and ability to see and hear them. Help to break through their bubble of isolation by reaching into them and acknowledging them and their pain. Be willing to listen and accept their feelings without judgment.

Help for suicidal thoughts:

If you feel suicidal, reach out for help. Find a psychiatrist or a therapist. You are in ultimate control of your life but we can help you see other options. Let us help you find that inner strength, that reason to live, and that light that can shine from within. It can take hard work, but with perseverance, recovery happens. It is often said suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

 

Sometimes people benefit from temporary hospitalization when acutely suicidal. Hospitalization can buy us some time to put a recovery plan in place and give us a chance to help. No one is hospitalized permanently for suicidal thoughts.

Will I be hospitalized if I admit I have suicidal thoughts?

The laws around involuntary hospitalization differ by state. In general, a person can be hospitalized against their will if they are deemed at imminent risk of suicide, i.e. with plans and intent to carry them out. It is obviously not a perfect science determining who is imminently at risk and who isn’t and mistakes can be made.

 

There are laws that protect people from having their rights taken from them and I take this extremely seriously when trying to make a determination. Just because I don’t agree with your choices, or even in the case of untreated psychosis, it doesn’t give me the right to hospitalize you unless there is accompanying imminent danger.

Suicide Prevention Hotline:Tips from a psychiatrist on suicide. Wondering how to help someone who is suicidal? Need help for suicidal thoughts? Suicide prevention hotline 800-273-8255

In the US, if you are feeling suicidal and unsafe call the suicide help line at 800-273-8255. They are available 24 hours a day and will provide you nonjudgmental and confidential support for free. There are helplines around the world also! Visit www.suicide.org/hotlines/international-suicide-hotlines.html for a list of numbers around the world.

Help for suicidal thoughts: Other resources

You can find more information on helpful resources on my Resources page, Mental Health Bookstore, or visit my blog for additional posts about recovery from depression:

11 Effective interventions for depression,

2 Reasons your antidepressant isn’t working.

Suicide Prevention: Recovery is possible!Tips from a psychiatrist on suicide. Wondering how to help someone who is suicidal? Need help for suicidal thoughts? Suicide prevention hotline 800-273-8255

I cannot emphasize this enough: recovery from suicidal thoughts is possible. People can heal and discover inner joy again. Life can be restarted and feel purposeful. Take a chance and let a trusted person know how you feel. So many of us want to help. Let us join you on your path of healing.

 

And for others worried about someone’s safety and wondering if they need help for suicidal thoughts- ask the person directly, listen nonjudgementally, and assist them in finding help if they need it. Suicide prevention can take teamwork. Don’t keep concerns about a person’s suicidality to yourself or agree to keep secrets. Reach out and get advice and support for yourself too!

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